Help Me, Help You

I received a phone call from one of my friends today because she was down on herself and frustrated with the way things are going in her life right now. She is a very nice and beautiful woman that tries to treat other people with small town hospitality and a smile. You see she just couldn't understand what she had done in her life to cause this series of bad ocurrances to her. She told me that she had a number of unexpected bills come at once, that one of her good friends was not speaking with her, her computer broke down, someone hit her car while it was in the parking lot and took off, and her car battery died, among other small things in the matter of a week. I think that most of us can say that we have had times like these. Where we get into a "rut" and everything bad seems to happen to us at once. Its just not fair! Why me?! What did I do to deserve this? I know I have been there many times and I know that it will happen again. But there is no sense in worrying about it. As the character Van Wilder says in 'Van Wilder' "worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but doesn't accomplish anything". What DOES make a difference is your attitude! If you continue to look at what is happening in your life with a negative or depressed attitude then things will continue to be that way. But believe me, if you try to see any positive in your life and try to see what you can do to break free of the "rut" you are in or make a positive effort to change things for the better then you will see that things will get better. Remember this: things will always get better...always! If its not better then you just haven't arrived there yet. Keep thinking positive no matter what!

One of the problems that my friend has is that she keeps her feelings bottled up inside. She lets her emotions build up until she explodes. This is no way to live! You need to express your feelings and express yourself as well. Find an outlet to get what you have on the inside out. Talk to your family, friends, a religious figure, or a specialist...they are all there for you! If you aren't comfortable talking to someone then find another outlet. This could be through music, art, working on something, or maybe even your own blog! Another problem that she has is that she has a fear of change. She very rarely if ever does anything to make a change, be it for the better or anything at all. Yet she expects things to be different. I ask, how can you expect or want things to change if you are unwilling to take action? Remember this when you find yourself in a bad time or a bad situation in your life. You need to take action to make a change for the better! Now this doesn't mean to do anything drastic, but you CANNOT expect things just to work out the way that you would like them to. You need to take action either directly or indirectly. I keep telling my friend this but she is very stubborn and reluctant to do it. So I help her out when I can in whatever way I can as long as it is productive and beneficial to her.

If you find yourself in a situation where you think that there is no possible solution to the problems and sadness in your life then I would advise you to do a couple of things. The first one being seeking professional help. People and programs are out there to help YOU and remember that. Don't be ashamed or too proud to seek out help. And if you have tried it in the past then try, try, try again! Don't give up! You are stronger than that! There is NEVER a reason to take the easy way out. One of my favorite movies is the 'Rocky' series. While I know that there is a lot to this movie that is fake, it always amazed me how much the lead character "Rocky Balboa" could take, yet he would keep on getting back up again! In the final movie in the series he says something like "its about how much you can take, how badly you can get beaten down, and still get back up". This applies to so many things but it applies to life in general the most. The second thing I would advise you to do if you feel as though you are unable to continue on would be to think about all of the things you would miss out on if you gave up. Don't just sit there all sad and depressed thinking about the negative things that will happen to you in the future. Imagine if you will that this line below is your life time line.
_________________________________________________ Now depending on how old you are, put a mark where your age would be if the beginning is birth. As an example, if you are twenty years old then your mark would be here relatively speaking.. ____________|____________________________________ The moment you are living in now is just a blip on the time line! There are SO many future "blips" or moments left on the time line! And things change so often during your life, do not be so naive to think that things will always be like they are! Remember attitude is important as well. Force yourself to change your mindset. Think positive, be positive, surround yourself with positive and positive will come your way. Also, don't be too quick to give up on yourself. If things don't change right away or if you experience another "rut" don't give up! Remember that things will always get better, I promise! Just stay in the fight! Be proud of past accomplishments, look towards the future with optimism and enthusiasm, and try not to worry.

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-Curt

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